Hello there Ladies!

I recently met a woman named Rachel who is going through a bit of a romantic tragedy, and she is now on the verge of becoming…bitter. I want to delve into her story because at some point we all must choose, after having our heart broken, to pursue love again or to allow our hearts to become hardened. Now, Rachel’s story…
After being in a tumultuous long-term relationship, in which her boyfriend consistently made her feel sexually undesirable, Rachel was cheated on. Although, he made half-hearted attempts to get her back, Rachel chose to end it. I applaud this brave move to get out of an unhealthy situation, but I am still concerned as Rachel told me, “I won’t be dating again. Ever. I don’t believe in love anymore”. Girl, believe me, I understand that sentiment, but please do not give your ex that much control over your happiness. And Rachel, you create your own happiness. So, if you decide to harden your heart, unfortunately you will never find the elation you deserve. You have every right to be angry right now and it is important that you feel your way through this phase, but make sure it is just a phase. Then, when you are ready, forgive him and release him. Trust me, if you decide to handle this heartache in a healthy and optimistic way, your life will be so much richer. Imagine the great man that can finally come into your life now that you’ve got Mr. Wrong out of the way!

In the meantime, surround yourself with a good support system, avoid the rebound rut, embrace this time of reflection and contemplation, and enjoy some YOU time. Then, as your heart heals, get out there again, go on dates, mingle, and open up your heart to love again. Take comfort in the fact that everyone goes through breakups, everyone questions whether they will ever find love again, but the ones who maintain a hopeful heart will find the happy ending!

Hello Ladies!

Have I got a treat for you! While out on the town recently, I spotted this hot single New Yorker named Mike who is a filmmaker and an all-around creative type. He gave me a little insight into the male mind. Here are a few questions I asked him, check out what this cutie had to say!

Juliette: Mike, there are so many smart and sexy single women in this city of actresses, businesswomen and models. For you, what qualities make a woman stand out in the crowd?

Mike: I look for a woman who has a similar sense of humor, is intelligent, supportive, challenging, open-minded, non-judgmental, creative, passionate, good-smelling. She has to be able to make me laugh, whether it’s intentional or not. Someone who is physically taking care of themselves is important; exercising and eating reasonably well. Oh yeah, I almost forgot. Being a good cook is a huuuge plus!

Juliette: Wow! That is quite a list, but I have to say, those are all very good attributes to look for. You really seem to have a clear idea of what you want, but what about what you don’t want? What is a turn-off for you when it comes to the Ladies?

Mike: A major turn-off in women is someone who doesn’t listen. I’m not talking about taking orders. If I’m speaking to someone and they are not giving me their full attention. That really turns me off.

Juliette: I’m sorry what did you say? My attention was elsewhere. Just kidding! You have my FULL attention:-) No, seriously, you are totally right! I think that goes both ways. Being a good listener is so important for both men and women. You want to feel like the person genuinely cares about who you are and what you have to say, even if it’s a simple summary of your day. So, let’s say you find this sweet-smelling woman who listens intently and cooks a phenomenal meal, what is your ideal date scenario?

Mike: My idea of a perfect date is just making a connection with the person. It doesn’t matter too much where it is. Going out to dinner is a great date for me. I was just recently watching this impressive stage show. It was hilarious! The unexpected hilarity factor would make a great date.

Hello Ladies!

I recently received a blog comment from a woman named Krissy stating that she is going through a bit of a relationship crisis. My favorite thing to do is help you Ladies out of a romantic bind, so let me see what I can do! Krissy told me that while on a break from her fiancé she dated a handful of men, and claimed that she didn’t sleep with any of them. After deciding she wanted her man back, she and her ex sat down to discuss their experience being on the break. Krissy lied to him, denying going on any dates. Her ex found out, as people always do, and broke it off for good. Krissy is now broken hearted because her ex won’t give her the time of day. I have to admit, this is a tough one because trust is everything in a relationship, and it only takes one lie to jeopardize that bond. This is an especially difficult situation because her ex won’t even hear her out. It’s hard to get your man back when he won’t even return a phone call.

Krissy, my first suggestion would be to ask yourself two questions, what was missing from the relationship that caused you to go on a break in the first place? And why did you feel the need to lie to him? You were on an agreed upon break, you went on dates, and you didn’t sleep with anyone. It all seems on the up and up to me. If you have a hard time being honest in this relationship, ask yourself if this is really a situation you want to enter back into? Was telling lies a normal part of life with him? Yet, if you were just nervous and normally you can be honest and open with one another, then I would try several means to get in touch with him. You may have to be persistent to get him to listen. If you are able to get his attention, explain to him why you lied this ONE time and why it will NOT happen again. Then you must be willing to do the work that it takes to rebuild trust. That can be a long and grueling process, especially since he “found out” and you didn’t tell him yourself. He will, of course, be thinking that there may be other things that he just didn’t ever happen to find out about. However, if he ignores your attempts to contact him, or if he listens but still won’t take you back; well, I believe that everything happens for a reason. Perhaps, you both needed to learn some valuable lessons, and now you will both be stronger for it. And Krissy, your next relationship will benefit from the insight you have gained from this heartache.

No matter what happens, forgive yourself, forgive him, let it go, and know that everyone makes mistakes. You are still a lovely Lady who deserves a great guy! Good luck and keep us posted!

Hello my movie-going Ladies!

If you don’t have a weak stomach and aren’t afraid to bust a gut laughing, I’d highly recommend the movie Tropic Thunder for your next date. A movie within a movie, this unique storyline pokes fun at Hollywood as the characters attempt to produce an epic Vietnam War film and inevitably everything that can go wrong, does. The real comedy begins once the actors are abandoned in the jungle in an attempt to achieve guerrilla-style filmmaking. Don’t worry, it’s not all blood and guts, Matthew McConaughey provides some very delicious eye-candy

There are some great performances too. Robert Downey Jr., Jack Black, and Tom Cruise are just a few of the actors in this star-studded cast. And hats off to Mr. Ben Stiller who wore many hats in this production. Not only did he perform his pants off, he also wrote, produced, and directed the movie. Busy guy!

Tropic Thunder will keep you laughing start to finish, and will enable you to show your man that you are not a total girly girl afraid of an action-packed laugh riot. Trust me, suggesting this box office hit will mean hitting it off with your date! Show him you are a woman who knows how to have fun by saving the chick flick for ladies’ night, and enjoying a night of hilarity with your man instead!