Cheaters and Players and Dogs, Oh My!
Okay, so we all know love is blind, and I know denial may seem like the less painful route, but let me tell you, if you find out your man is cheating, DO NOT stick around and cheat yourself! A little while ago, I received an email from a woman whose man had been playing her in the worst possible way, sleeping with several different women, calling lots of girls his girlfriend, and get this, he even had a WIFE! Wow! How do men like this go to sleep at night?! They better be sleeping with one eye open is all I have to say! But for the moment, let’s not focus on them. Let’s focus on a much more important factor, YOU. My advice to this anonymous woman and to all of my other lovely Ladies out there, demand the best out of this world. Demand it from all of your relationships, from your career, from yourself, and from every other aspect of your life. Life truly is what you make of it, and so are your relationships. So do not waste a minute of your precious time on a man who doesn’t know your value or respect your worth. Yes, people make mistakes, and I have seen couples bounce back from infidelity and be stronger for it. So, I realize this isn’t a black and white issue in every case. If your man “messed up” and is begging that you take him back, just realize that the power is in your hands. Is this man standing before you really going to step it up and be the man you need him to be? I don’t know. You are the judge and the jury on this one, so examine the facts. Notice I said facts, not emotions. Sometimes you really have to separate your head from your heart to make the clearest decision. Think about it, did he admit his mistake to you and apologize, or did you just find out on your own? If he didn’t come clean on his own, who knows what other dirty little secrets he may have. Also, is this just another let down by him? Is he always saying sorry for some huge mistake he made? Ladies listen, I know when you are in love you put on your rose tinted glasses and you try to see the glass as being half full. I get that, I do, just make sure your man isn’t full of it. If you do decide to give him another chance, keep your wits about you and make sure he is devoted to rebuilding trust. Sure, a lot of guys are happy to say they’re sorry, but they don’t want to put in the work it takes to actually heal a broken situation. If you decide to leave his sorry butt behind, trust that you are an incredible woman who will find a Gentleman to cherish you, not cheat on you.