Hello there Ladies!
Recently, a cool young woman named Cori wrote me with some great dating questions. I am sharing her scenario with you as it is quite universal. This is what she had to say…
“I went on a date with a guy for the 1st time almost 2 weeks ago…we both had a great time…lots in common…made each other laugh…you get it. Anyway, we had 4 days of some flirtatious texting. Then 2 days of radio silence. I reached out to him asking if he wanted to meet up for a drink, and we did…and I just didn’t get the same vibe as our 1st date. He did text me the next day, but nothing in nearly 3 days. His life is pretty full right now (work wise). Is he disinterested? I would love to reach out to him, but I am wondering if I should just let it ride and/or write him off?”
Now, I could spend the afternoon pondering his work schedule conflicts and his text messaging issues, but honestly, that would be a waste of all of my time and yours. In the past, I recommended the book HE’S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. I really stand by this philosophy. Not to say that this man isn’t interested in you Cori, but rather, to remind you to let him show you just how interested he truly is. I am not implying an archaic dating system in which the man must make all the 1st moves. I definitely think women need to be forthcoming about thier feelings as well. However, it sounds to me like you have reached out to him via text, initiated getting drinks, etc. I think now you need to just relax. You’ve done your part. He knows you are interested. Let him come to you now. If he doesn’t respond to you, then he is not worth your time. Besides, don’t you want a guy that doesn’t leave you having to tally up how many days you talk versus how many days there is “radio silence”? Remember, the early stage of dating is supposed to be the giddy, can’t get enough of each other, romantic time. If he is already slacking in the first few weeks, you can imagine the laziness factor if things were to become long term. So, to Cori and all my lovely ladies out there, remember not to settle. You teach people how to treat you, so be sure you are teaching the men in your life that you are worthy of being pursued with 110% effort. It’s not about playing games, it’s about not getting played. Feel free to post your comments on this topic or send me an email at juliette@girlsguidetodating.com.
