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Being the worldly woman that I am, I am so excited to announce that I will be taking time off from blogging to enjoy some leisurely travels in the months to come. That’s right Ladies, this fall I will be sightseeing in Germany, in England, and who knows where else! So, while I’m abroad exploring, be sure that you have fun exploring the wild world of dating! And don’t worry, your Faithful Guide To Dating has equipped you with tons of dating know-how to get the guy.
I am so ecstatic that I have been able to shed some light on the mystery of men, to have led you to some sizzling hot spots, to have given you a special peek into the male mind, and to have made delicious discoveries all along the way! So, as I gear up for my next adventure, I truly hope you will take these pearls of wisdom, remember that you are phenomenal women, and take on the dating world with passion and confidence!
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Hello there Fabulous Ladies!
So, my email has been flooded lately with really great questions! Today I will share with you two different stories from two different women. Both stories caught my attention as they are pretty universal dilemmas. Let’s start with a driven young woman named Lauren who wrote…
“…one of the best ways to find love is when you’re not looking for it…but what no one ever talks about, is whether or not you’re ready for it if it does happen. As more and more women focus on their careers and become their own, independent person, it becomes all too easy to get into a routine. I know this because not only am I currently balancing a full-time job with part-time grad school, I’m 22 and entering into this odd world of first dates. How can I prepare myself if that first date opportunity presents itself?”
Let me start by saying, props to you Lauren for all that you are juggling! You are quite a super-woman! Next, relax. You are already “prepared”. It’s just a date. Really. I know we put so much pressure on finding the right guy, wearing the right thing, going to the right place for dinner, kissing at the right moment, blah blah blah, but at the end of the day, it really is just a date. Just two people getting to know each other a little bit better. So, be confident in the driven and accomplished woman that you are, and when a worthwhile man approaches you, go for it! Like you said, it’s easy to get into a routine, so it’s important to make time for romance. Don’t be afraid to be spontaneous! And remember, we all learn as we go. Trust me, the guy you’re going to go out with won’t have it all figured out yet either, so just relax, don’t put so much pressure on the situation, and enjoy each other’s company. If there’s no spark, so what?! On to the next! You will know you’ve found a keeper when you can really just be yourself with another person and have fun! Our next story is from a young woman who’d like to remain anonymous (see Ladies, you can trust me to keep a secret!). Here is what she had to say…
“I just started dating this really nice guy, but he lives about an hour away. One night when we were hanging out, because I wasn’t sure, I asked him if we were officially dating. This was his answer, “yeah, I guess, but it’s going to be hard to see each other, so if you find a guy at your school you like, go ahead. I don’t mind you dating 2 guys at once.” His brother told a friend of mine, who then told me, that he’s liked me for a long time. So, I don’t get why he’d say something like that. HELP!”
Well, Girl, there are a couple of things here that concern me, a.) you weren’t sure that you were officially dating and b.) he said he doesn’t mind you dating 2 guys at once. Let’s start with (a) first. This guy needs to make it clear to you exactly where you stand in his life. You shouldn’t have to wonder if you are dating, his actions and his words should make that very clear. Now for (b), I could give him a pass on the ambiguity of your dating status had his answer to your question been something like, “Yes, of course we are dating! You’re such a great woman and I am really into you”. However, his answer did not meet my standards. Plus, one hour hardly qualifies as long distance. If he really likes you and you really like him, an hour of travel, even just once a week, is certainly doable. It sounds to me like he is, dare I say, afraid of commitment. What guy in their right mind would want you to date other guys? I’m not saying he is a jerk, I don’t know him. What I will say is that when I look at the facts, which are that you aren’t sure if you two are “hanging out” or “dating”, and he is happy to let you date other people, it really doesn’t appear to me that he is giving you all that you deserve. So, take his advice, go on dates with other guys. One of two things will happen, he’ll feel jealous, realize what a foolish proposal that was, and decide to make things exclusive, or you’ll meet a better guy who isn’t silly enough to pawn you off onto another man!
Well Ladies, those are my pearls of dating wisdom for the day. As always, I love being your Faithful Guide in this crazy world of dating. Good luck and keep me posted!]]>
Okay, now I don’t want to overwhelm you, or rather, overheat you with hot man after hot man, but I was just visiting the west coast and I spotted yet another sexy single! This California boy, Trey, was nice enough to stop and grab some Thai food with me and let me peek into his mind. Here is a little bit of our conversation…
Juliette: Trey, as a talented musician and director, you must meet desirable and beautiful women all the time. What do you find attractive in a Los Angeles woman?
Trey: There’s nothing more attractive than confidence. If I see a woman who knows she’s lovely and talented and wonderful, she’s on my radar! I
love a go-getter attitude, someone who’s really driven and independent
and doesn’t wait for someone else to do it for her. If something
needs to be done, she does it…if something needs to be fixed, she
fixes it. I don’t want a woman who NEEDS me, I want a woman who WANTS
me! That just means I like a woman who can get along just fine
without me, but together, we enhance one another. I also like a woman
who likes to cultivate herself. Sure, it’s fine to watch some reality
tv once in a while, but you also have to be able to go to the symphony
every now and then and take in museum or two.
Juliette: Let me just say Trey, it is so refreshing to hear a man list off inner qualities rather then outer beauty, especially from a man living in Hollywood! Living in such a big city, there must be a lot of women who rub you the wrong way too. So, what is a major turn off for you with women?
Trey: Confidence is sexy, but arrogance is not! And ignorance may be bliss,
but it’s not hot! Stay informed, stay educated- If you don’t know
what’s going on in the real world, or you just don’t care, that tells
me the waters don’t run very deep with you. Also…and this may be a
little funny, but I get really annoyed when people throw away things
that could be recycled. That’s just lazy- and laziness is definitely
Juliette: Education! Recycling! Again, Trey, refreshing and unique answers! I’m so excited to hear what your idea of a perfect date would be?
Trey: I enjoy the simple things in life. My perfect date would probably
start with a picnic with peanut butter sandwiches, crackers and
cheese, and cheap wine. Watch the sunset, watch the stars come up,
and then go get milkshakes and watch a movie.
Juliette: That sounds so fun and laid back! If I wasn’t all the way on the east coast, I’d take you up on that milkshake and movie! Thanks for your time Trey and I hope you find yourself a Hollywood Hottie who recycles, thinks and has a healthy dose of confidence!]]>
It’s the beginning of fall, leaves are changing, the weather is getting chillier, and Halloween décor is starting to appear on the shelves at the local stores. Witnessing all of this transformation got me thinking about the seasons we go through in our life, moments of heartbreak, periods of romance, and the times when we’re flying solo. Having a creative outlet during these different phases is so important. So, in the spirit of celebrating seasons of change, I interviewed the ultra-talented singer-songwriter, Sarah Nischwitz, about how she uses her talents to cope with life’s romantic twists and turns. Let’s see what she had to say!
Juliette: Sarah, I’ve seen you perform live in NYC and you are wildly talented! I’m totally a fan! How did you get where you are today? Tell us a little bit about how you discovered your love for music?
Sarah: I started writing songs when I was very young. I would record radio shows on my little brown Mattel tape player with the handle-I still have the tapes! I finally learned to accompany myself in 8th grade when my mom found a beautiful upright for $500. I taught myself every song off of Jewel’s “Pieces of You” . I finally picked up my parents’ old Yamaha guitar my sophomore year of college and the rest is history! I started playing covers at the local coffee house every week, and really got a chance to work on my showmanship. Now, in NYC I try to hit up open mics all the time and book showcases and gigs. Some day soon, I would love to go on tour with a band!
Juliette: Wow! You sound mostly self-taught, that is so encouraging! Now, what I love about your music is that it deals with love during the fruitful seasons and during seasons of heartbreak. How is your personal life reflected in your art?
Sarah: How is it not!? My music is always inspired by something that moves me deeply-a relationship, a break-up, an experience. I have trouble sitting down and being like, “ok, let’s write a song”. But something will happen that I really feel, and I cannot put down my pen. I’m going through a lot of changes in my life right now and think I have 10 songs in my notebook already. Gotta keep that paper handy!
Juliette: That is such an awesome way to vent your feelings! Thanks so much for your time Sarah! Now, I know my Ladies are going to want to hear your awesome music, where can they go to check you out?
Sarah: No problem Juliette, it was fun! Your girls can hear my music on the web at www.sarahnischwitz.com and www.myspace.com/sarahnisch . If you’re in the city, come show your support and see me perform live THIS Wednesday, September 24th at Mr. Dennehy’s in NYC from 8-11pm.
Juliette: I’m totally there!
Thanks for tuning in Ladies. Whether you’re a poet, a painter, a musician, or just have a imaginative soul, I encourage you to get creative about changes in your life too!
I recently met a woman named Rachel who is going through a bit of a romantic tragedy, and she is now on the verge of becoming…bitter. I want to delve into her story because at some point we all must choose, after having our heart broken, to pursue love again or to allow our hearts to become hardened. Now, Rachel’s story…
After being in a tumultuous long-term relationship, in which her boyfriend consistently made her feel sexually undesirable, Rachel was cheated on. Although, he made half-hearted attempts to get her back, Rachel chose to end it. I applaud this brave move to get out of an unhealthy situation, but I am still concerned as Rachel told me, “I won’t be dating again. Ever. I don’t believe in love anymore”. Girl, believe me, I understand that sentiment, but please do not give your ex that much control over your happiness. And Rachel, you create your own happiness. So, if you decide to harden your heart, unfortunately you will never find the elation you deserve. You have every right to be angry right now and it is important that you feel your way through this phase, but make sure it is just a phase. Then, when you are ready, forgive him and release him. Trust me, if you decide to handle this heartache in a healthy and optimistic way, your life will be so much richer. Imagine the great man that can finally come into your life now that you’ve got Mr. Wrong out of the way!
In the meantime, surround yourself with a good support system, avoid the rebound rut, embrace this time of reflection and contemplation, and enjoy some YOU time. Then, as your heart heals, get out there again, go on dates, mingle, and open up your heart to love again. Take comfort in the fact that everyone goes through breakups, everyone questions whether they will ever find love again, but the ones who maintain a hopeful heart will find the happy ending!]]>
Have I got a treat for you! While out on the town recently, I spotted this hot single New Yorker named Mike who is a filmmaker and an all-around creative type. He gave me a little insight into the male mind. Here are a few questions I asked him, check out what this cutie had to say!
Juliette: Mike, there are so many smart and sexy single women in this city of actresses, businesswomen and models. For you, what qualities make a woman stand out in the crowd?
Mike: I look for a woman who has a similar sense of humor, is intelligent, supportive, challenging, open-minded, non-judgmental, creative, passionate, good-smelling. She has to be able to make me laugh, whether it’s intentional or not. Someone who is physically taking care of themselves is important; exercising and eating reasonably well. Oh yeah, I almost forgot. Being a good cook is a huuuge plus!
Juliette: Wow! That is quite a list, but I have to say, those are all very good attributes to look for. You really seem to have a clear idea of what you want, but what about what you don’t want? What is a turn-off for you when it comes to the Ladies?
Mike: A major turn-off in women is someone who doesn’t listen. I’m not talking about taking orders. If I’m speaking to someone and they are not giving me their full attention. That really turns me off.
Juliette: I’m sorry what did you say? My attention was elsewhere. Just kidding! You have my FULL attention:-) No, seriously, you are totally right! I think that goes both ways. Being a good listener is so important for both men and women. You want to feel like the person genuinely cares about who you are and what you have to say, even if it’s a simple summary of your day. So, let’s say you find this sweet-smelling woman who listens intently and cooks a phenomenal meal, what is your ideal date scenario?
Mike: My idea of a perfect date is just making a connection with the person. It doesn’t matter too much where it is. Going out to dinner is a great date for me. I was just recently watching this impressive stage show. It was hilarious! The unexpected hilarity factor would make a great date.]]>
I recently received a blog comment from a woman named Krissy stating that she is going through a bit of a relationship crisis. My favorite thing to do is help you Ladies out of a romantic bind, so let me see what I can do! Krissy told me that while on a break from her fiancé she dated a handful of men, and claimed that she didn’t sleep with any of them. After deciding she wanted her man back, she and her ex sat down to discuss their experience being on the break. Krissy lied to him, denying going on any dates. Her ex found out, as people always do, and broke it off for good. Krissy is now broken hearted because her ex won’t give her the time of day. I have to admit, this is a tough one because trust is everything in a relationship, and it only takes one lie to jeopardize that bond. This is an especially difficult situation because her ex won’t even hear her out. It’s hard to get your man back when he won’t even return a phone call.
Krissy, my first suggestion would be to ask yourself two questions, what was missing from the relationship that caused you to go on a break in the first place? And why did you feel the need to lie to him? You were on an agreed upon break, you went on dates, and you didn’t sleep with anyone. It all seems on the up and up to me. If you have a hard time being honest in this relationship, ask yourself if this is really a situation you want to enter back into? Was telling lies a normal part of life with him? Yet, if you were just nervous and normally you can be honest and open with one another, then I would try several means to get in touch with him. You may have to be persistent to get him to listen. If you are able to get his attention, explain to him why you lied this ONE time and why it will NOT happen again. Then you must be willing to do the work that it takes to rebuild trust. That can be a long and grueling process, especially since he “found out” and you didn’t tell him yourself. He will, of course, be thinking that there may be other things that he just didn’t ever happen to find out about. However, if he ignores your attempts to contact him, or if he listens but still won’t take you back; well, I believe that everything happens for a reason. Perhaps, you both needed to learn some valuable lessons, and now you will both be stronger for it. And Krissy, your next relationship will benefit from the insight you have gained from this heartache.
No matter what happens, forgive yourself, forgive him, let it go, and know that everyone makes mistakes. You are still a lovely Lady who deserves a great guy! Good luck and keep us posted!]]>
If you don’t have a weak stomach and aren’t afraid to bust a gut laughing, I’d highly recommend the movie Tropic Thunder for your next date. A movie within a movie, this unique storyline pokes fun at Hollywood as the characters attempt to produce an epic Vietnam War film and inevitably everything that can go wrong, does. The real comedy begins once the actors are abandoned in the jungle in an attempt to achieve guerrilla-style filmmaking. Don’t worry, it’s not all blood and guts, Matthew McConaughey provides some very delicious eye-candy
There are some great performances too. Robert Downey Jr., Jack Black, and Tom Cruise are just a few of the actors in this star-studded cast. And hats off to Mr. Ben Stiller who wore many hats in this production. Not only did he perform his pants off, he also wrote, produced, and directed the movie. Busy guy!
Tropic Thunder will keep you laughing start to finish, and will enable you to show your man that you are not a total girly girl afraid of an action-packed laugh riot. Trust me, suggesting this box office hit will mean hitting it off with your date! Show him you are a woman who knows how to have fun by saving the chick flick for ladies’ night, and enjoying a night of hilarity with your man instead!]]>
I just discovered the cutest, quaintest, most romantic little town in upstate New York. I know that when you think of New York, you automatically think of the big city. However, I would like to remind you that Manhattan is just a small portion of what the state of New York has to offer. So, if you are looking for a romantic getaway for two, consider New Lebanon, New York. New Lebanon offers a very peaceful environment equipped with tree covered hills for miles and miles. I don’t know about you, but sometimes this city girl needs a serene escape just like this!
There are several romantic Bed and Breakfasts in this adorable little town. Try the Churchill House (www.churchillhousebb.com) or the Hitchcock House (www.hitchcockhousebb.com) to add a hometown feel to your hotel experience. While you’re there you and your sweetie may want to try some small town cuisine at one of the charming little restaurants such as Fresco’s Wood-fired Pizza & Pasta, Mario’s Fine Italian American Restaurant, or Jimmy D’s Family Diner. Now, I know you Ladies are always wondering what the shopping scene is like, well, New Lebanon has several antiquing opportunities. Check out Angel’s Trumpet Flowers & Gifts (www.angelstrumpetflowers.com). They have a wonderful selection of antiques and various other collectibles. After a day of shopping and eating, sit back and relax for an evening of great theatre at New Lebanon’s historic Theater Barn (www.theaterbarn.com). What better way to end a lovely day then with some excellent live entertainment.
Whether you choose to explore the picturesque towns of the east coast, or look into local weekend getaway options near you, this type of quiet and romantic excursion is often a perfect escape from the hustle and bustle of city life. So, take a time-out from your routine and enjoy some small town romance!]]>
So, a hot guy has caught your eye, or maybe you’ve already scored a first date with him, and now you want to look and feel your best in front of him. Yet, I know that the world is jam-packed with gorgeous guys, and who can afford to spend top dollar on a glamorous outfit hot off the runway every single time we run into one of these hotties?! Well, I am a big proponent of purchasing a new ensemble if the price is right. So, here are a few suggestions of affordable stores where you can stock up on reasonably priced items and not have to sacrifice looking hot!
1.) Necessary Clothing (www.necessaryclothes.com) is a great store in Manhattan with a few different locations. It is always up on the trends while maintaining really great prices!
2.) Forever 21 (www.forever21.com) is also on top of the latest trends, yet this store is located all across the country.
3.) Buffalo Exchange (www.buffaloexchange.com) is located in various cities across the country, check the website to see which store is nearest to your hometown. This store is really cool as it allows you to exchange your old clothes that you don’t wear anymore and get lightly worn clothes in return. The fashions here are often vintage and unique!
4.) H&M (www.hm.com) also has many locations across the U.S. and abroad, and it not only features many current trends, but H&M also blazes the trail for fashion forward new looks!
Happy shopping Ladies! Be sure to write in with any stores you suggest that have great fashion at great prices!]]>