Hello there my Lovely Ladies!

Being the worldly woman that I am, I am so excited to announce that I will be taking time off from blogging to enjoy some leisurely travels in the months to come. That’s right Ladies, this fall I will be sightseeing in Germany, in England, and who knows where else! So, while I’m abroad exploring, be sure that you have fun exploring the wild world of dating! And don’t worry, your Faithful Guide To Dating has equipped you with tons of dating know-how to get the guy.

I am so ecstatic that I have been able to shed some light on the mystery of men, to have led you to some sizzling hot spots, to have given you a special peek into the male mind, and to have made delicious discoveries all along the way! So, as I gear up for my next adventure, I truly hope you will take these pearls of wisdom, remember that you are phenomenal women, and take on the dating world with passion and confidence!

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Hello there Fabulous Ladies!

So, my email has been flooded lately with really great questions! Today I will share with you two different stories from two different women. Both stories caught my attention as they are pretty universal dilemmas. Let’s start with a driven young woman named Lauren who wrote…

“…one of the best ways to find love is when you’re not looking for it…but what no one ever talks about, is whether or not you’re ready for it if it does happen. As more and more women focus on their careers and become their own, independent person, it becomes all too easy to get into a routine. I know this because not only am I currently balancing a full-time job with part-time grad school, I’m 22 and entering into this odd world of first dates. How can I prepare myself if that first date opportunity presents itself?”

Let me start by saying, props to you Lauren for all that you are juggling! You are quite a super-woman! Next, relax. You are already “prepared”. It’s just a date. Really. I know we put so much pressure on finding the right guy, wearing the right thing, going to the right place for dinner, kissing at the right moment, blah blah blah, but at the end of the day, it really is just a date. Just two people getting to know each other a little bit better. So, be confident in the driven and accomplished woman that you are, and when a worthwhile man approaches you, go for it! Like you said, it’s easy to get into a routine, so it’s important to make time for romance. Don’t be afraid to be spontaneous! And remember, we all learn as we go. Trust me, the guy you’re going to go out with won’t have it all figured out yet either, so just relax, don’t put so much pressure on the situation, and enjoy each other’s company. If there’s no spark, so what?! On to the next! You will know you’ve found a keeper when you can really just be yourself with another person and have fun! Our next story is from a young woman who’d like to remain anonymous (see Ladies, you can trust me to keep a secret!). Here is what she had to say…

“I just started dating this really nice guy, but he lives about an hour away. One night when we were hanging out, because I wasn’t sure, I asked him if we were officially dating. This was his answer, “yeah, I guess, but it’s going to be hard to see each other, so if you find a guy at your school you like, go ahead. I don’t mind you dating 2 guys at once.” His brother told a friend of mine, who then told me, that he’s liked me for a long time. So, I don’t get why he’d say something like that. HELP!”

Well, Girl, there are a couple of things here that concern me, a.) you weren’t sure that you were officially dating and b.) he said he doesn’t mind you dating 2 guys at once. Let’s start with (a) first. This guy needs to make it clear to you exactly where you stand in his life. You shouldn’t have to wonder if you are dating, his actions and his words should make that very clear. Now for (b), I could give him a pass on the ambiguity of your dating status had his answer to your question been something like, “Yes, of course we are dating! You’re such a great woman and I am really into you”. However, his answer did not meet my standards. Plus, one hour hardly qualifies as long distance. If he really likes you and you really like him, an hour of travel, even just once a week, is certainly doable. It sounds to me like he is, dare I say, afraid of commitment. What guy in their right mind would want you to date other guys? I’m not saying he is a jerk, I don’t know him. What I will say is that when I look at the facts, which are that you aren’t sure if you two are “hanging out” or “dating”, and he is happy to let you date other people, it really doesn’t appear to me that he is giving you all that you deserve. So, take his advice, go on dates with other guys. One of two things will happen, he’ll feel jealous, realize what a foolish proposal that was, and decide to make things exclusive, or you’ll meet a better guy who isn’t silly enough to pawn you off onto another man!

Well Ladies, those are my pearls of dating wisdom for the day. As always, I love being your Faithful Guide in this crazy world of dating. Good luck and keep me posted!

Hello there Ladies!

It’s the beginning of fall, leaves are changing, the weather is getting chillier, and Halloween décor is starting to appear on the shelves at the local stores. Witnessing all of this transformation got me thinking about the seasons we go through in our life, moments of heartbreak, periods of romance, and the times when we’re flying solo. Having a creative outlet during these different phases is so important. So, in the spirit of celebrating seasons of change, I interviewed the ultra-talented singer-songwriter, Sarah Nischwitz, about how she uses her talents to cope with life’s romantic twists and turns. Let’s see what she had to say!

Juliette: Sarah, I’ve seen you perform live in NYC and you are wildly talented! I’m totally a fan! How did you get where you are today? Tell us a little bit about how you discovered your love for music?

Sarah: I started writing songs when I was very young.  I would record radio shows on my little brown Mattel tape player with the handle-I still have the tapes!  I finally learned to accompany myself in 8th grade when my mom found a beautiful upright for $500.  I taught myself every song off of Jewel’s “Pieces of You” .  I finally picked up my parents’ old Yamaha guitar my sophomore year of college and the rest is history!  I started playing covers at the local coffee house every week, and really got a chance to work on my showmanship.  Now, in NYC I try to hit up open mics all the time and book showcases and gigs.  Some day soon, I would love to go on tour with a band!

Juliette: Wow! You sound mostly self-taught, that is so encouraging! Now, what I love about your music is that it deals with love during the fruitful seasons and during seasons of heartbreak. How is your personal life reflected in your art?

Sarah: How is it not!?  My music is always inspired by something that moves me deeply-a relationship, a break-up, an experience.  I have trouble sitting down and being like, “ok, let’s write a song”.  But something will happen that I really feel, and I cannot put down my pen.  I’m going through a lot of changes in my life right now and think I have 10 songs in my notebook already.  Gotta keep that paper handy!

Juliette: That is such an awesome way to vent your feelings! Thanks so much for your time Sarah! Now, I know my Ladies are going to want to hear your awesome music, where can they go to check you out?

Sarah: No problem Juliette, it was fun! Your girls can hear my music on the web at www.sarahnischwitz.com and www.myspace.com/sarahnisch . If you’re in the city, come show your support and see me perform live THIS Wednesday, September 24th at Mr. Dennehy’s in NYC from 8-11pm.

Juliette: I’m totally there!
Thanks for tuning in Ladies. Whether you’re a poet, a painter, a musician, or just have a imaginative soul, I encourage you to get creative about changes in your life too!

Hello there Ladies!

I recently met a woman named Rachel who is going through a bit of a romantic tragedy, and she is now on the verge of becoming…bitter. I want to delve into her story because at some point we all must choose, after having our heart broken, to pursue love again or to allow our hearts to become hardened. Now, Rachel’s story…
After being in a tumultuous long-term relationship, in which her boyfriend consistently made her feel sexually undesirable, Rachel was cheated on. Although, he made half-hearted attempts to get her back, Rachel chose to end it. I applaud this brave move to get out of an unhealthy situation, but I am still concerned as Rachel told me, “I won’t be dating again. Ever. I don’t believe in love anymore”. Girl, believe me, I understand that sentiment, but please do not give your ex that much control over your happiness. And Rachel, you create your own happiness. So, if you decide to harden your heart, unfortunately you will never find the elation you deserve. You have every right to be angry right now and it is important that you feel your way through this phase, but make sure it is just a phase. Then, when you are ready, forgive him and release him. Trust me, if you decide to handle this heartache in a healthy and optimistic way, your life will be so much richer. Imagine the great man that can finally come into your life now that you’ve got Mr. Wrong out of the way!

In the meantime, surround yourself with a good support system, avoid the rebound rut, embrace this time of reflection and contemplation, and enjoy some YOU time. Then, as your heart heals, get out there again, go on dates, mingle, and open up your heart to love again. Take comfort in the fact that everyone goes through breakups, everyone questions whether they will ever find love again, but the ones who maintain a hopeful heart will find the happy ending!